are y'all orgasming? | babblings report #004 New podcast episode, Resources for Anti-Trans Legislation, and my favorite sex toys!
Welcome back the babbling’s report! I’ve got a great newsletter for y’all with the latest podcast episode, resources, references, sex toy recommendations, and we also need to get into the Virgo/Pisces Eclipse cycle!
💗 NEWEST EPISODE 💗
Hold On A Minute… Are Y’all Orgasming? 🌟 The Orgasm Gap, Lunar Eclipse, & Feeling Misunderstood | babblings
➡️ Episode Links: YOUTUBE | APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY
Howdy! Have you missed me? 😝 After years of mentally collecting data about people I know who are or more likely aren’t experiencing orgasms, I realized I was the hero that needed to step up to the plate and address it! FREE the straights from the gender binary and labor! FREE the religiously controlled from sexual shame! Especially as we continue into this new age of conservatism or repression, it’s more important than ever to take control of our own pleasure 🌟
Episode References:
Climax as Work: Heteronormativity, Gender Labor, and the Gender Gap in Orgasms https://doi.org/10.1177/08912432211073062
Does Clitoral Knowledge Translate into Orgasm? The Interplay Between Clitoral Knowledge, Gendered Sexual Scripts, and Orgasm Experience https://doi.org/10.1080/0092623X.2022.2147112
Devaluation of Women’s Sexual Pleasure: Role of Relationship Context and Endorsement of the Madonna-Whore Dichotomy https://doi.org/10.1007/s11199-023-01424-3
Differences in Orgasm Frequency Among Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Heterosexual Men and Women in a U.S. National Sample https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-017-0939-z
❤️ SUPPORT TRANS PEOPLE! ❤️
I mentioned in the podcast episode two groups of legislation I’m currently paying attention to on a national and local scale are things happening in DC like budget cuts, layoffs, etc. I’m also trying to paying attention to all the anti trans legislation being introduced not just federally, but across the US in 49 states.
FACT: Trans people are not a threat to society, society is a threat to them
FACT: Any attempted censorship of a group is an attempt to censor us all
Track Anti Trans Legislation: https://translegislation.com/
The Epidemic of Violence Against the Transgender & Gender-Expansive Community in the U.S. 2024 Report: https://reports.hrc.org/an-epidemic-of-violence-2024
Resources for Trans People & Ways Allies Can Donate + Get Involved!
Point of Pride https://www.pointofpride.org/
Point of Pride’s mission is to “help the most vulnerable members of our community feel seen and supported through access to life-saving health and wellness services.” They work to provide financial support, medical support and access, education scholarships, free chest binders, and more! You can donate or fine a way to volunteer!
Trans Lifeline https://translifeline.org/about/
“Trans Lifeline is a grassroots hotline and microgrants 501(c)(3) non-profit organization offering direct emotional and financial support to trans people in crisis – for the trans community, by the trans community.” There are many ways to support like donations and they have multiple volunteer positions available!
Trans Youth Equality Foundation https://www.transyouthequality.org/
“The Trans Youth Equality Foundation provides education, advocacy and support for transgender, nonbinary and gender non-conforming children and youth and their families. Our mission is to share information about the unique needs of this community, partnering with families, educators and service providers to help foster a healthy, caring, and safe environment for all children we serve.” Support emergency funds for those trying to leave more violent and anti trans states.
🌟 SEX TOYS & EROTIC AUDIO 🌟
I get most of my toys off of Adam and Eve (because you can always find an influencer with a 50% off & free shipping code) and Bellesa. Here are some of my recommendations for the clitoris owners.
Now this is on my list to get, so I can’t speak from experience, but I’ve heard major things and this has become a cult favorite fast. Stimulation for the outside and inside. This is not what I would say to start with, because it is pricey and could be overwhelming for those just tipping their toe. But I also can’t say it shouldn’t be your first try if you’re up for it and ready to explore your g spot.
Eve’s Ravishing Suction+ Rose – by Adam & Eve
Any kind of rose or air pulser is gonna do you wonders! I’ve had a couple, the latest is this one from Adam & Eve because it’s decently priced and works really, REALLY well. If your someone that struggles with letting your partner give you oral sex, I would say give this a try. It’s going to give you the similar stimulation and feeling, use it with a partner, and then once you’ve got a handle on the feeling, we can experiment with our partners to find that pleasure through oral stimulation without the toy 🙂
Now we’re getting into rabbit and penetration territory. If you’re someone with a vagina stay away from just a regular old dildo. Yes there can be fun experimenting done, but ultimately if this is new a regular old dildo is gonna really help you get there. I love this rabbit/thruster because similar to airvibe pro we’re getting stimulated inside and out, and I love a thruster because less work for me to stimulate the g spot with friction and not just vibration. This is again a little expensive and you can find cheaper ones that are similar. But keep in mind like anything the cheaper the lower quality. Hold out for deals they run all the time!
I mentioned in the episode that one of the ways I like to stimulate my mind is with audio erotica. I have a Quinn subscription which I’d highly recommend, but there are several other companies that produce similar audio. Including Bellesa! Bellesa also produces porn for women by women, so if you’re needing a visual stimulant I’d start there because I’d say it’s one of the more ethical productions in the industry.
Quinn https://www.tryquinn.com/
Bellesa https://www.bellesa.co/story/category/15/audio
🌙 LUNAR ECLIPSE IN VIRGO 3/13-3/14 🌙
Not only is my moon in Virgo, but my north node is also in Virgo, making my south node in Pisces. So I’m pretty excited no matter what may come with this eclipse season on the Virgo/Pisces axis. Finding a way to use my Virgo moon to my advantage and not tear myself apart trying to enforce perfectionism to support and further my dreams is a constant battle. As we’re gearing up the my Saturn return in late May, personally I’m being confronted with finding balance between discipline and criticism, while also reflecting on my interpersonal relationship. This eclipse cycle will hit everyone differently so it’s important to make sure you’re not listening to the hysterical pop astrologist, and pay attention to those that are offering real grounded advice and analysis of the eclipses. Here’s my favorite youtube astrologer, you’re gonna want to go based off of your rising sign when she starts to get specific.
https://www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/9-u2ZfujzuI?rel=0&autoplay=0&showinfo=0&enablejsapi=0
Let me know in the comments if you have any better recommendations. I’d love to hear everyones exploration of pleasure stories. This is a safe space!
